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Mother’s Day Guest Post from Lisa at Raising Explorers

My name is Lisa. I’m not just an English teacher, or just a mum, or a wife, or just a great big greenie. I’m all of those things. My blog Raising Explorers, inspired by my kids, is also all of those things. So what does a twin-mum, English-teaching environmentalist, who is passionate about learning through play, have to say? Well, you’ll have to come and visit to find out… www.raisingexplorers.net

Mother’s Day: terrariums, tantrums and glow worms in the toilet

Yesterday I celebrated my fourth Mother’s Day. To be honest, I don’t really remember the other three very much. In addition to having a three-year-old, I have another three-year-old (yes, twins), so the first couple of years are a bit of a blur. Things are less foggy now. I hope to remember this Mother’s Day next year. Actually, I had a bit of wine yesterday, so maybe I won’t.

I have a photo from my first Mother’s Day, which is nice. I thought about making that an annual tradition – a Mother’s Day photo with the kids – but I forgot to tell anyone else, so it hasn’t happened again. You get that, right, mums? You never get a photo of you. You have fifty thousand photos of the kids with everyone else, because you take them, but none of you? I have resorted to taking selfies of me and the kids, which are never very successful. In addition to the fact that I have a physiological aversion to selfies (what is the deal with those mirror ones!?), there’s always someone’s head blocking someone else’s head, or someone’s face front and centre, massive and alien-like, while everyone else’s are cut off mid-forehead. Here’s a typical one:

Oh, yeah, that face painting was done by me, too. As you can see, I have many skills. But enough of that. This post is about my reflection of Mother’s Day. What happened, what I learnt, and things to remember for next time.

Now I must preface this all with that I am a very lucky woman. My husband is pretty darned amazing. He gets the kids breakfast every day, cleans more than I do, takes the kids to the Bunnings playground, and when I’m slack with my (limited) household duties, he pretends not to notice. My floordrobe, for example, is rapidly expanding and probably sheltering a family of bush rats brought inside and set free by the cat, but he doesn’t complain. He steps over it without so much as a “hmph”. Actually, he’s probably tidied it up. He’s just that kind of guy.

This particular Mother’s Day picture from Crappypictures.com (see below) has been doing the rounds on Facebook again this year, so I thought I would do my own Mother’s Day wrap-up with reference to “Crappy Pictures Best Mother’s Day Gifts.” Here goes:

1.       Sleep-In – well, that depends on what you define as a sleep-in. If having two three-year-olds jump on you at 6:21am for 15 minutes, then leave to get breakfast with daddy, meaning you can try to catch a few more zzzzzz’s, then yes, I had a sleep-in. If sleep-in means you are not disturbed until 10am, then a definitive no;

2.       Eat with two hands – yes! I can usually eat with two hands. This isn’t really an issue any more… Phew. (I even got scrambled eggs!);

3.       Alone time – yes and no. When alone time is writing a class set of Year 7 reports, it’s debatable whether it’s a gift or a punishment (ah, the life of a teacher!);

4.       Audience-free toilet time – yes! Oh, actually, no. I was interrupted and had to allow two intruders in, shut the door, turn off the light, and exclaim in delight at the sight of their glow worm babies in darkness.

And a few of my own favourite Mother’s Day gifts:

5.       No tantrums – NO! Despite being told about the sanctity of Mother’s Day and the need to show their love for Mummy by being very, very good, we suffered a couple of meltdowns (well, from Miss P, anyway). Maybe next year when she’s four she might get it? (Please?)

6.       Messy but adorable kid-made gift – Yes! The kids made terrariums at kindy out of softdrink bottles. They planted little seedlings inside, decorated them with pink handprints, and wrote their names and drew pictures on cards that contained care instructions. Awwwwww! (PS thank you kindy for the care instructions – I’m just not very good at potplants – hope they survive!) I’d also like to thank kindy for doing craft at all. I’m not very crafty.

The kids and their terrariums

7.       Dad-bought gift presented by kids – Check! I asked for some Ugg boots as my gift. Check ‘em out! (Not necessarily what I’d choose, but it’s the thought, right? Thanks, Honey, I love them!)

What I learnt:

·         Sleep-ins are not possible unless kids sleep over at their grandparents’ house;

·         Buy bacon to go with eggs;

·         Don’t leave Year 7 reports to the last minute;

·         Use the downstairs toilet and lock the door;

·         Kids don’t modify their behaviour on Mother’s Day – not three-year-olds, anyway;

·         Terrarium plants require just a couple of sprays of water each day. Do not drown seedlings;

·         Provide pictures of desired Ugg boots to husband, or just suck it up and love what you get!

Ah, Mother’s Day 2013. One to remember!

Trading 15 minutes for 15 years - Part 1

By now you have seen the odd photo of me and more than likely it was sporting the a not overly flattering onesie. As you can see, I’m not a slight man by any means, but until recently I didn’t really know how bad it was. 

You see, I’ve always been solid… not fat, but solid. Through High School I filled out and by the time I was 15, I was 69kgs (I remember that number for some reason ;)). I played sport and even after finishing school I was very active, playing Hockey, Touch Football and Basketball. I would train/play at least 3 times a week and due to this, my metabolism always allowed me to eat whatever I wanted and the amount I wanted.

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I dropped Touch and then Hockey… I started to get more “solid”. I did pick up basketball a bit more and at one stage in my mid 20’s I was playing 3 times a week and still was holding my weight at bay (even though the gourmet pizza and a few beers after each game at the Australian Hotel wasn’t helping).

My “fighting weight” as I call it is 94kgs. At 6ft 1in, that is still considered overweight, but as I had always been solid, I was comfortable and I could still do everything I wanted too.

Like most parents, you put on a few kgs when you have a child… sure it’s expected from the Mother, but Dad’s do too, I put on sympathy weight when 3AM Mum was pregnant with Jaec. 5 kgs to be exact. 99kgs… hmmm… still under a tenth of a tonne and sure, I was past solid, but I still didn’t feel uncomfortable.

I was still playing basketball once or twice a week after we had Jaec. I still remember 3AM Mum saying how active Jaec was when he was in the womb at my games… now 9 years on, he still loves getting out for game. The trouble is 9 years on, I’m not 99 kgs, I’m not playing anymore competitively and the “old” knees and ankles don’t like it as much as they used too.

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When we fell pregnant with Kaine, we made the decision to move up north to Brisbane for my work. I flew back to Sydney every weekend to see my 1 year old and pregnant wife and fitness went out the window completely  The most exercise I got was slapping the “All Lines” button on the pokies at the local pub with some work mates at lunch, whilst dining on the finest of deep fried “foods”.

As we were pregnant again, I did what I did last time… I whacked on 5kgs of sympathy weight and to be honest, I felt all of my 104kgs. I was 10kgs over my “fighting weight” and starting to get uncomfortable. I was in a new city, without my family and friends. I had a baby over 1000km away and a pregnant fiance. I don’t think I was depressed, but it was the toughest emotionally I had ever been. Kaine came early and I flew home early that week and met my 2nd child in 16 months. 6 weeks later, all 4 of us were residing in Brisbane and at least I had my family with me. I was happy.

I started playing futsal once a week with my work mates, but with 2 kids under 2, it was hard on all of us. The only other exercise I got was walking 10 minutes to and from the train station… and I didn’t even like that. I stopped playing futsal, we fell pregnant again 8 months after Kaine was born and we had no family support.

We had 2 options, I try to get a job back in Sydney and maybe take a backwards step in my career or we move to the Gold Coast to be closer to the 3AM In-Laws for help and I make the commute up each day. We decided on the second, as I still needed to bring in some OK money with a soon to be family of 5 under my roof.

We settled on the Gold Coast really well, but now I was away from my work mates too and I was more time poor with the hour commute. I had no time for fitness and to follow my rule I set up previously, I was 109kgs by the time Izaac was born.

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I received comments like “Really, you don’t look that big” , “Wow, that big. You really carry it well”.

This is the first part of my ongoing Weight Journey, I have recently started to focus on it, please keep an eye out for future editions.

Welcome to the Fatherlution!

A lot of you have been reading my blog for over 2 years and some have come on board in recent weeks, but all of you are here to read about a simple man, doing special things… well “special” for a man anyway ;). When I started this blog, it was for my thoughts, feelings and experiences. I thought this would be a cool thing to give my daughter when she was older. I still think this, but now it is much more than that. 

I am a part of the Fatherlution. I am one of many Dads, that have stayed at home to care to their kids. I am one of many Aussie Daddy Bloggers too. Please drop by our site and our Facebook Page and show some support.

You would’ve undoubtedly seen some of us in magazines, online articles and on radio recently. Keep an eye out for us on the TV too in coming weeks.image

Welcome to the Fatherlution.

Boys and their toys…

Recently started building a bike track in the back yard… I was a little more excited than the boys as I got the spray paint out and started marking out the track. Jaecob (8) ventured out the back, more interested initially in the spray can, than what I was actually doing with it. Finally after a few minutes of “Can I have a go Dad?”, he asked “Dad, whatchya doin’?”.

BANG! an almighty explosion from next door made both he and I jump. I looked over the fence to 5 teenagers with what would be best described as a pipe gun.

“What was that dad?” Jaec asked

“Just some kids being silly” I responded.

“Why are they doing that?”

“Probably because they don’t have girlfriends.” I said with a wink. “Jaec, you’re not going to be like that when you are a teenager are you mate?”

“Nah Dad, I’ll be too busy riding my bike.”

“And what about having a girlfriend?”

“Yeah, I’ll ride my bike and have a girlfriend.” He said knowingly

Atta boy.